8 Self-Care Reminders for the Holidays

The holiday season is often seen as a time for joy and togetherness, but for survivors of domestic abuse, it can be particularly difficult. The pressure of family gatherings, holiday expectations, and the emotional weight of past trauma can be overwhelming. Here are some suggestions that might help you navigate this time with resilience and self-care.

Set Boundaries

Establishing clear boundaries is crucial. Decide which events you feel comfortable attending. It can be difficult, but try to give yourself permission to decline those that may trigger anxiety or distress. Remember, it’s okay to say no and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.

Create New Traditions

The holidays can also be a chance to create new traditions that bring you comfort and joy. Whether it’s preparing a special meal, volunteering, or spending time with supportive friends, focus on activities that empower and uplift you.

Practice Mindfulness & Gratitude

Mindfulness can help you manage stress and stay grounded. Taking just a few minutes each day to focus on your breath can reduce anxiety and help you feel more centred. It might also be helpful to name a few things that you’re grateful for today (tea, fleece blankets, laundry machines, good company, funny cat videos, etc.).

Reach Out for Support

Sharing your experiences can provide comfort and strength. Connect with support groups or helplines where you can speak with others who genuinely care about your well-being and can understand what you're going through. Our women’s support line, based at SAGE Transition House, is available 24/7. You can call us at 604-987-3374.

Limit Social Media Exposure

Social media can sometimes leave us feeling inadequate or lonely, especially during the holidays. Consider limiting your social media time, and try to avoid “doom-scrolling.” Instead, curate your feed to show more positive and supportive content by liking and sharing what makes you feel good.

Focus on Self-Care

Make self-care a priority. Whether it’s taking a long bath, reading a good book, or engaging in creative hobbies like painting or writing, find activities that bring you peace and relaxation. Taking time for yourself is essential, especially during this busy time of year.

Plan Ahead

If you know certain days will be especially difficult, plan activities that keep you engaged and distracted in a positive way. You can watch your favourite movies, go for a walk, or spend time with pets—anything that helps you feel connected and at ease.

Prioritize Your Safety. Full Stop.

Your safety should always come first, and this includes your physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. If you're feeling unsafe in any way, reach out to trusted friends, family, or local support services (like ours!). It's important to have a safety plan in place, which might include a list of emergency contacts and a packed bag with essentials, should you need to leave quickly.

Final Thoughts

By prioritizing your safety, setting boundaries, creating new traditions, and focusing on self-care, you can navigate this period with strength and resilience. Remember, you don’t have to face this alone—we’re here to support you whenever you need us.